Undressing Desire: A Personal Experience of Wanting
What does the word desire mean to you? It turns out desire is complicated. It is not only highly debated but is also highly misunderstood. So if you asked yourself the question: what does the word desire mean to you? You might not have an answer. What do we know? 1. Desire is a spectrum with a normal variation from absent to frequent (1). Desire can vary from day to day, between partners, at different stages of life, and between circumstances. It fluctuates. We need to dispel the myth that lack of desire is in fault of dysfunction of the vagina holder. We need to accept that desire changes. 2. Desire includes factors beyond biology and psychology. It is influenced by the individual environments, the relationship, cultural norms, societal expectations, bodily experience (2,3,4). Your experience in life will influence your definition of desire. 3. Desire is the experience of wanting to engage in sexual activity that is deeply individualistic (5). Take time to define your perso...